Shame often sneaks in from our early experiences, with moments of bullying or critical voices that whisper we’re not enough. But in safe spaces filled with empathy, that shame starts to fade, allowing us to reclaim our identities and embrace who we truly are.
Healing our inner child is all about giving love to those little parts of ourselves that still feel hurt. By treating our inner child with kindness, we create a cozy space where we can grow and shine.
Recently, I attended a tea party at Mead Gardens in Orlando, and it felt like stepping into a scene from Alice in Wonderland.
The flowers were blooming and the sunlight filtered through the trees, making it a magical backdrop for our whimsical gathering. My best friend Annie came up with the idea, suggesting we all bring our own mugs, which added such a personal touch. I had so much fun rummaging through my kitchen and picking out my favorite ones.
When we arrived at the picnic table, it was a sight to behold. Everyone had dressed up in pastel dresses and playful accessories, creating a lively, fairytale vibe. We settled in, ready to share not just tea but laughter, stories, and a bit of nostalgia. I chose a light blue pastel dress that reminded me of the Alice in Wonderland movie, complete with an "Eat Me" necklace.
Annie handled most of the items and decor setup, bringing along a lovely dessert platter, a tablecloth for the picnic table, and some adorable plates. That picnic table became our sanctuary, a place where we could be ourselves without fear of judgment. In that magical setting, all the outside worries faded away, and it felt like we were in our own little wonderland.
I used to spend many late nights going out to clubs and bars, drinking and dancing until the early hours. While those nights were fun every now and then, I’ve come to appreciate the beauty of enjoying the day instead. There's something so refreshing about waking up early and soaking in the sunlight, exploring new places, and making memories during daylight hours. It feels so much more fulfilling to embrace the moments that happen when the world is awake.
Annie’s idea turned into more than just a gathering; it became a celebration of friendship and healing. Our friend Brenna captured the moments on her film camera, and the photos turned out beautifully raw and candid, adding a special touch to the day. Sage brought some fresh berries, while Molly contributed a basket of croissants and cucumber sandwiches.
Being with close friends brings such comfort. Whether over coffee, daytime events, going out, crafting, or just hanging out, those moments fill me with warmth and help me let go of shame. We all carry the scars of childhood bullying, and I still remember the sting of hurtful comments. But when I’m with friends who understand, that weight starts to lift.
In those relaxed moments, conversations flow effortlessly and sharing our stories feels natural. It’s such a relief to be vulnerable without fear. When we admit our insecurities, we realize vulnerability is a courageous act of connection, not a weakness.
As we laugh and share, I can feel those old wounds starting to heal. By the end of our time together, I always leave feeling lighter and more like myself. Each gathering reminds me that I’m worthy of love and acceptance, just as I am.
Shame might seem negative, but it can actually help us figure out what really matters and where our boundaries lie. It nudges us to reflect on our actions and pushes us toward personal growth. Letting go of shame is where the real magic happens. When we shed that heavy weight, we start to embrace who we really are, fostering connections and boosting our self-worth. By accepting our imperfections, we open ourselves up to vulnerability and authenticity, creating a life that feels fulfilling and joyful.
So let’s keep surrounding ourselves with friends who make us feel safe and understood. In those genuine moments, we can embrace our true selves and let shame fade away. Together, we’re not just healing; we’re creating bonds that last a lifetime.
These gatherings remind me of the magic that happens when we come together. We’re never alone in our struggles, and together we can create a sanctuary where healing thrives.
Here’s to more moments filled with joy, connection, and the sweet comfort of friendship!
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